If you find yourself trapped by questions like, “How can I make them see my worth?” or “What if I’m too much for them?” then I have good news. There’s a playful, pleasurable formula that shifts the dynamic back in your favor. It goes like this:

Know yourself

Choose yourself

Assert yourself.

In this post, I’ll break down each component of this empowerment formula, with practical examples to help you feel more in control and confident when you roll out for that date.

Confidence is figureoutable. I've pulled together a cozy little list of books to help you do just that, to discover your confidence. Memoirs to inspire you to trust your mind, guides sprinkled with feminine wisdom, and fiction heroines that challenge the status quo — these books are not just about empowerment; they're about finding your own unique ‘flavor.’ Your own vibe of boldness, softness, intelligence and flair. So, if you’re tired of the background noise of self-doubt and ready to be inspired, these books might just be the new friends you need.

Discover the nuances of avoidant attachment and learn how to foster healthier relationships with my in-depth guide. From signs you might have avoidant attachment, how you experience others in relationship to practices for healing, explore an honest and gracious perspective today.

Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this article is an invitation to recognize and understand the deeply ingrained patterns that influence your success in romance. If you’re feeling on the edge of a breakthrough (or breakdown), questioning why your partner seems unmoved by your needs, or ghosted on repeat on Bumble, you will come away empowered to change your situation. As someone who has healed intense anxious attachment, I promise you are capable of doing the same. Let’s jump in.